Dearly beloved, we are gathered here in the sight of God, and in the presence of these witnesses, to join together this man and this woman. Yep! It’s that time of the year. The time, when those wedding invitations start to appear in your mailbox. Wedding season is upon us, and it’s such a joyous and exciting time of year. I was a wedding planner for eight years and Lordt let me tell you something, I’ve seen a lot in those eight years. As someone who has been a wedding guest, a planner, and a bride I know a little something-something. So, today, I wanted to share a couple of dos don’ts before you send that RSVP card back.
Make sure to return your RSVP card as soon as possible. The couple has provided you with a stamped envelope to ensure a timely return. Keep in mind that the couple has to turn in their final headcount about 2-3 weeks before the big day to the venue and caterer. RSVPs help the couple estimate how many guests are coming, which in turn help them determine how many table and chairs, centerpieces, food etc. is needed.
Be On Time
Nothing irks me more than people who have no respect of my time. Time is money! Time is something that you can’t get back. Once it’s gone it’s gone. You can’t buy additional time no matter how much money you have. Okay, enough ranting about time. Arrive at least 20 minutes before the scheduled start time of the ceremony. This issues that you have enough time to sign the guestbook and find your seat.
Do Not Wear White
You would think that this is common sense but I’ve learned there is no such thing as common sense anymore. White became a popular option in 1840, after the marriage of Queen Victoria to Albert of Saxe-Coburg, when Victoria wore a white gown trimmed with Monition lace. If you’re not sure what to wear to the wedding take a look at the invitation. The wedding invitation sets the tone for what you should expect, it’s the first thing that you will see when it comes to the wedding. If the couple doesn’t ask you to wear white please refrain from it because it’s tacky.
Please don’t take out your cell phone and take pictures during the ceremony. The couple has spent thousands of dollars on a professional photographer and they don’t want to receive their pictures back only to see you in their pictures with a cell phone in hand. Also, if you have your cell phone out during the ceremony then you are not being present and in the moment.
Mail Your Gift
If you purchased the couple a gift off their registry and the gift is rather large go ahead and have it mailed to their home. Lugging a large gift around in the heat of summer in some heels, no ma’am, don’t do it.
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