Recently, I quietly snuck away and tucked my blogging and posting away in a drawer so I could get clear on what I want to share and talk about moving forward. I wanted to pivot a bit…was maybe feeling a little stuck…and I wanted to move through it to the other side.
I wasn’t mentally in the space to blog. Somehow I lost my inspiration and just wasn’t feeling my best. I was in a rut. Maybe you’ve felt that way before?
If you have, I want to share with you what I did and maybe inspire you to get out of it, because it’s no fun to feel stuck and it’s the worst thing when you’re a creative, entrepreneur, or artist because it’s the momentum we thrive off of.
Here’s what I did:
- Stopped Altogether
I took a break. Instead of trying to force myself to keep showing up, I accepted that I was in a rut. Usually, a tell-tell sign that you’re in a rut is that you’re struggling to show up so I listened to what I was feeling and stopped fighting it. I took my break and I stopped. It’s okay to stop. Please remember that.
- Reassessed My Heart
The second thing I did was get in tune with my heart. I always want to give my best and never half-ass it and I was half-assing it for a while so I knew I needed to dig back into my purpose and have a look to see what was there.
I did a lot of reflecting to make sure that blogging is what I really want to do.
While I reflected, I realized that the root of my issues was that I wasn’t as passionate about some of the topics I was covering. I’m very passionate about helping women—especially black women—live life on their terms whatever that looks like.
I want to tell women that if you…
Want to go back to school—go!
Want to start a new business—amazing, do it!
Want to change career paths later in life—go for it!
Want to have your first child at 40—God bless you (no just joking that’s a blessing!)
You get what I’m saying.
I realized that I want to help women by engaging them on topics such as lifestyle, finances, wellness, fashion, and home decor. It’s an intentional smorgasbord of some really key components of our lives that can really get us down if they’re not where we want them to be.
- Got Back in the Saddle
The next thing I did was get back in the saddle! Hey! Hi! That’s why you see me back. I took my break and then tried to minimize the time that passed between getting clear and taking action. I think that’s really key because if we sit around after we find clarity, we start to second guess ourselves and allow the fear in.
During my break, I had mixed emotions. I was sad because I wasn’t connecting with my audience. I also enjoyed my time away to recharge and come back ready to serve. I wanted to be ready to commit to sharing valuable information consistently.
Some things I found helpful during my break were:
- Listening to inspirational and informative podcasts
- Taking Lightroom Courses
- Reading my Bible to find clarity
If you’re feeling in a rut, I hope that helps. Remember, it’s okay to take a step back and reflect. Take the time you need. You don’t have to take the same path as others. Rock to the beat of your own drum. It’s really not the end of the world if you don’t post on Instagram.
With that said, let me reintroduce myself. No, I’m not JayZ and I’m not gonna bust out his lyrics (although you should definitely go listen to his “Allow Me to Re-Introduce Myself” song after this post).
My name is Lani Bailey. I’m married and have 3 kids ages 16,12,2.
This blog is a space where women can find inspiration and resources for all things lifestyle, finances, wellness, and more. I’m very passionate about women living authentic lives that are true to who they really want to be.
Now it’s your turn to introduce yourself. Say “hi” in the comments!